Magazines tell us it's because you're moving on from the "honeymoon" stage of the relationship to the "attachment" stage. Why does the sweetness have to stop when the honeymoon is over? It shouldn't. I want to be surprised with a random rose on my windshield after work more than once in my entire relationship. I want a romantic gesture to remind me of his affection for me. But in his mind, our sex is his great romantic gesture. Instead I am the one doing romantic things and in return getting nothing; hardly even a thank you.
So instead of bringing up the lack of romanticism in our relationship on his part we deal with it justifying in our heads that, he's stressed, busy, tired, or all of the above. But in all reality there is no lame excuse for it. He should be buying me flowers, writing me a random sweet note/text to make my day, because I and every other girl in the world deserve that. Romance shouldn't be left for novels, children's stories, and movies, it should happen in everyday real life.
Part of me believes it's the women's fault for letting him get away with not doing anything besides playing video games and occasionally taking us out to dinner at a mediocre restaurants that have sports blaring from oversized tvs.
Maybe it's time to cut the ties and wait for the guy who doesn't have to be reminded that I am worth the effort of a true romantic gesture. Or maybe we deal with it because the fear of being alone is worse than not having a romantic boyfriend...
